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Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach University, liked to challenge his students and clients by asking questions that popped into his mind that pushed them outside of the box in their thinking. One day while being interviewed by the San Francisco Chronicle, he very casually said “I feel that goals are overrated and unnecessary.” This was ironic at the time since he was currently teaching a course called “Life by Design” in which goals were the central thesis. Needless to say, he was berated rather severely in the newspaper.
I love thinking about how goals can be expensive if we take them too deeply to heart. Goals can certainly induce me to get up each morning to get a specific task done, or to move toward completion of a project, but they often do not inspire me to any great degree. I’m going to step out on a limb here, and state that I believe that is the case for the majority of people working in the United States. They will push themselves to complete a project or task, but rarely does the project or task excite them. Nor has anyone, let alone themselves, put something in front of them that does. So, let’s talk about goals for a minute.
A goal is often an object we are striving for. Many of you know about how all goals should be SMART goals – Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. Rather than the traditional definition – let’s talk about how these SMART criteria could be limiting you.
- Specific – The goal has defined limits, specifically defined. Out of the box thinking is not encouraged, taking you to something bigger and better when you consider the possibilities.
- Measurable – Unless this goal is just for your fulfillment, whether or not you accomplished the goal satisfactorily is being measured by an external source – your boss, your family, your friends – rather than satisfaction being found from within.
- Attainable – If the goal is deemed attainable by someone else – it is often not a stretch for the person accomplishing it, designed for the purpose of growth. While I am not a proponent of creating goals that are impossible, I do believe in growth.
- Realistic – One question here. Was the electric light bulb realistic, or flying in an airplane realistic, or splitting atoms realistic – in their time? True innovation often is not considered realistic at the time.
- Timely – By putting a target date on a project or task, you are putting the accomplishment of the goal firmly in the future – thereby causing you to concentrate your thoughts more in the future than the present. The present is where you find the opportunities and ideas that move you forward, and when your attention is elsewhere you may miss them.
Often I find that goals are created because we are trying to fulfill a want or a need. By definition, a need is something that drives us, and will often take precedence over our values. An example of a need that I see being played out over and over is the need for power. This need for power may override our values of compassion, respect, kindness or our life intentions to be a loving family member or an exceptional leader.
Now, if you think I’m bashing the setting of goals, I’m not. However, I think that people sometimes confuse goals with tasks. For example, we set a goal of losing 30 pounds. Or a goal of being able to walk 5-10 miles in one day. What if your goal was to be able to hike in Switzerland through the mountain meadows in 12 months on your wedding anniversary? This is a fun goal. The tasks then are to eat healthily and walk 1/3 of a block further each day in preparation for the trip to Switzerland. This still meets the criteria of a SMART goal, but it inspires and fulfills a life intention or value.
What becomes even more interesting here is how people sometimes confuse vision with goals. Vision is the art or power of imagination; living out of the box we put ourselves into each day. Vision easily defines purpose. It inspires, and does not limit. It is specific, because a great vision is detailed, not only visually, but you can feel it, smell it and touch it in your imagination. It is measurable, because you will know you have attained it when you get there. It is attainable, but not without a stretch and action on your part. It is realistic, because anything you can dream you can create. It is timely, because you will fulfill your vision when it is time.
A vision pulls us forward – setting tasks along the way because we see the next right step to take. As each task is accomplished, we are one step closer to the vision. When we sit back after we complete the task each day to look at the vision again to see if it has changed, we will see the next right step.
People, teams and organizations need a vision and a purpose that inspires them. It helps them align their thoughts and their actions each day to what they hold dear. Goals, as often defined within our performance management systems rarely do that, and often create rote activity that inspires no one.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master. Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can find her on her websites http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , and http://www.georgiafeiste.com. Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.
Commitment is the ability to defy a lack of consensus and support a decision specifically when members of a team don’t naturally agree. It is a rare team, indeed, who is willing to behave in this extraordinary way. It means that when they walk out of a meeting where they have agreed to support a specific decision, there is no hallway conversation taking place. No one is angry and mumbling under their breath. Each person knows what they have committed to and understands completely what they need to do next.
How does this happen?
First of all, the team has achieved a level of transparency around the strategy or goal that has been established. There is no uncertainty around ANY aspect of the situation. No one is making an assumption around what is to be done and there is nothing vague about the direction that has been established. With Teams of Integrity, this is done by the continuous asking of questions until everything has been said. The team knows that all points of view have been explored from every direction.
The second thing that Teams of Integrity do to obtain commitment is create alignment and acceptance. This is a difficult challenge because what we are aiming for is the achievement of honest emotional support. When clarity has been achieved, the team will have the conviction necessary to adopt a decision and set aside their initial thoughts and opinions.
We are relying upon the foundations of building a robust team in order to attain this level of alignment. Trust, a strong ability to communicate in crucial situations, and a common purpose are required to get to this point. Commitment cannot occur if people are unclear about exactly what is being committed to.
Have you been in any situation where people have left a meeting with a different understanding of what has been decided? What happens? I worked with a company where decisions were often announced and you could hear the outcry that took place across the entire campus. In order to avoid this type of repercussion, it is important to identify any discrepancies in team member’s understanding BEFORE a decision is announced. The leader must call the question: “What have we agreed to here?” and continue the discussion as necessary.
In addition, the leader must demand that the team go back and communicate the decision to staff members within twenty-four hours – in person. This requires each member of the team to have the ability to speak to the decisions that have been made with clarity and in a supportive manner.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master. Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life. She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. Her websites are http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where you can find her blogs about business and career, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and http://www.georgiafeiste.com where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics. Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.
I was speaking to a group of people the other morning about Teams of Integrity and noticed that many of them looked puzzled, and some looked like they didn’t know why I was talking to them about the topic. Afterward, I asked them why they had those reactions. Joe said that he wasn’t part of any teams, so he didn’t think the ideas fit him. Randy said he was part of a team at work, but that was it. I was caught off guard, because my thought process has always been that I belong to a multitude of teams, and it never occurred to me that others might not look at their life in that fashion.
There are a multitude of definitions around the word team. It could be a cooperative unit, such as a sports team. The business dictionary defines it as a group of people with a full set of complementary skills required to complete a task, job or project. The Free Online Dictionary says that it is a group organized to work together. Merriam-Webster gives us the etymology of the word, which comes from the Middle English word “teme” meaning offspring, lineage or race.
Most people think of teams in the context of sports or in a workplace environment. This is certainly true, and the concepts behind creating cohesive and intentional teams certainly apply to both of those concepts. But it also applies to a number of other teams that we don’t normally think of in our daily use of the word.
Here are some thoughts around how we all belong to multiple teams, using a great friend of mine as an example.
1. She is a great one for remembering that we are all connected, so the first team she belongs to is the team of mankind.
2. Work – organization, department and her division.
3. Volunteer position within the Red Cross, and within that the group of people she works with on a rotational basis.
4. Church, as an overall member.
5. Church committee, as an active team member and facilitator.
6. Small Group Ministries – once per month, serves as a participant and volunteer facilitator, as needed.
6. Meditation Group – 2-3 times per month. Serves as a rotating facilitator.
7. Spiritual Growth Group – once per month, serves as a participant and rotating facilitator.
8. Tai Chi Class – serves as facilitator, supporter and chief encourager
9. Family – spouse, mother, grandmother, daughter
10. Neighborhood – works with her neighbors to create a safe and caring neighborhood where everyone looks out for each other
I visualize our lives as being made up of intertwined teams, with some people interacting in multiple teams on a daily basis. So, when I am speaking about building teams of integrity, I am talking about consciously and intentionally interacting in the role of leader in all areas of your life, on all the teams you play with. Being a leader on a team does not require that you be at the forefront of all activity (task, job, or project). Sometimes you step aside and let others lead while you follow. The mark of a great leader is when they recognize what skills and abilities they bring to each team they belong to. And they play full out, with all their team mates.
I will be back this week to speak to the same group about Building Teams of Integrity – and I’ll be sure to take these thoughts with me. Joe will realize how many teams he plays on, and perhaps Randy will begin to look at his work team in a different light.
Think about all the teams you are on in your life. Are you participating full out, with conscious intention?
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master. Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life. She is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. Her websites are http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where you can find her blogs about business and career, http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion, and http://www.georgiafeiste.com where you can catch her thoughts on a wide variety of topics. Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.
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