Monday, April 23, 2018

Leadership Perspectives: The Cat’s In The Cradle

January 29, 2013 by  
Filed under Leadership, Personal Growth

As a leader, do you make time for the people that matter to you? These could be your teammates, your children or your spouse, or your friends?

Time is the most precious commodity we have. Time is limited. And, yet, there is always enough time to be with the people who need us most.

I may catch you by surprise here, but I have a confession to make. I often write about the things that I need to learn the most. My perspective is that if I’m having problems with this, others will too. So please indulge me by letting me share my epiphany of the morning:

Background. I sometimes get short-tempered with people, and my dog, if they require too much of my time or are taking up my time when I think they aren’t doing enough for themselves.  My husband hurt his knee several days ago, and he has been limping around, lying in bed, and generally moaning and groaning about how much it hurts. He refuses to go to the doctor to see if there are some major issues that may need to be addressed, and he refuses Advil or Tylenol to ease the pain. I am frustrated around the time it takes in taking care of him (little things like doing all his chores – which aren’t many, serving him meals, putting pillows under his leg while he sits down to watch TV, etc.).  I have been wondering why I feel that frustration, and feeling more than a little disconcerted with myself given my intention to be a loving spouse.

Most of you know that I’m all about personal growth and that it is an ongoing process that we are never really done with.  I’ve been continuing my education by taking classes in intuition and leading from the heart. My classes on Saturday and yesterday were about paying attention to what your heart is telling you (intuition), and your questions will be answered. This morning during my meditation, I clearly heard the song “The Cat’s In The Cradle”.

Epiphany. My biggest doubt and fear that gets me in the most trouble is that “people won’t have time for me, or that they will believe I am not worth spending time on or with”. It stems from an experience I had at the age of 3 where my father forgot me during a stressful time in his life. This is the image I hold in my heart when people I don’t know well tell me they can’t do something or don’t have “time” to spend with me at that particular moment. And of course I doubt and fear it – because I am it on occasion.

I know I’m not the only one who has ever felt that way, or has ever stopped a conversation, or been short with someone because they “didn’t have time”, and that’s why I wanted to share this with you today.

As I said earlier, time is a precious commodity. And, it shouldn’t be wasted. Put your phone on hold, turn away from your computer. Sit quietly in your chair, or go for a walk with the people who ask for your time. Listen with every fiber of your being. Ask questions. Pay careful attention to the answers. Listen to the space between the words, and find what is in their heart. Your teammates, your spouse, your children and your friends will thank you and feel blessed that you were willing to take the time to be with them.  You will find you have not wasted a minute.

What is your best time story?

I’d love to hear from you, and how you applied what you learned from it.

If you enjoyed this post, and it has helped in any way, please share it with others using the share links below.

Thank you for reading and for being part of this community.

You can find me on Twitter at @feistycoach, LinkedIn, and Facebook.  Please let me know you’re a reader when we connect. I look forward to continuing the conversation!

Be Sociable, Share!

Speak Your Mind

Tell us what you're thinking...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar!

CommentLuv badge

captcha-251 * Time limit is exhausted. Please reload CAPTCHA.