Monday, April 23, 2018

The Four Agreements

I read The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz, many years ago. These agreements are simple, yet profound, and have continued application in our lives today.  Recently, I was in a metaphysical store in Arizona, and came upon The Fifth Agreement, by don Miguel Ruiz and his son, don Jose Ruiz. This inspired me to go back and re-read the first book again.

The word is like a seed, and the human mind is so fertile, but only for those kinds of seeds it is prepared for.

This wonderful little book reminds us that we create thousands of agreements based on assumptions we make and taking everything personally.  When we do this, and begin to verbalize it in our word, we use the power of our word against ourselves. Don Miguel Ruiz says “We are using all the power of our creation to create a dream that sets us up to suffer for the rest of our lives.”

We can use the Four Agreements as a tool for transforming our lives, provided we give thought and intention to truly live them. They will lead us to stop judging, feeling guilty, shameful or experiencing self-rejection. They help us break those agreements we have made with ourselves for many years, that limit our creativity and our ability to express who we are. They encourage us to replace them with new agreements that facilitate the expression of our love.

In their simplest form, the Four Agreements are:

  • Be impeccable with your word.

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


  • Don’t take anything personally.

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.


  • Don’t make assumptions.

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


  • Always do your best.

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


Over the last several years, I have been exploring Truth – which is the first step toward personal freedom – so that I might put some order to the chaos of my mind, giving me the freedom to live my own life, rather than the life of a belief system ingrained in me over the last 60 years. The more I explore, the more I am discovering that everything is made with love. My goal is for every action I take to be an expression of the One Being.

I am not always successful, but I am doing the best I know how in the moment, and I willingly forgive myself when I don’t succeed. I’m then free to use these mistakes as stepping stones to the path that is right for me.


The Four Agreements Plus One. Join us in an exploration and practice of these ancient Toltec teachings shared with us by don Miguel Ruiz in his timeless book, The Four Agreements,. Learn how to release and let go of agreements you have made that are no longer serving you, and to make new agreements to live by. Georgia Feiste, Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc.  Love offering requested. Location: Heartland Joy Center, 5561 So. 48th Street, Lincoln, NE 68516 Dates: September 11, 25, October 9, 23 and November 13, 2012. Time: 7:15pm – 8:45pm. To reserve your spot, call the Heartland Joy Center at (402) 318.6675 or  Georgia Feiste at (402) 304-1902.

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, and Phoenix, AZ, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.   Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.


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5 Responses to “The Four Agreements”
  1. Georgia, have you ever considered doing something like this as a webinar? I think The Four Agreements would be a really great idea to do somehow in cyberspace. Just thinking…

    • Thanks, Marcia. I haven’t had much luck with webinars in the past, but I will put this out there to see if there are any takers. Since I’m preparing slides – I will want to find a service that will allow me to utilize those… You are always thinking! I love your thoughts! I recommended you for a Triberr group called Women Who Rock – to post their articles and blogs. Wanted to let you know so that if you get an invitation, you know that it started with me.

  2. Geoff Snyder says:

    Great post Georgia. A nice refresher… I’ve been a fan of The Four Agreements for several years and I’m now excited to check out The Fifth Agreement. Thank you so much for sharing this. ~ Geoff
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    • You are welcome, Geoff – watch for more blogs on it, as I’m sure I’ll be adding some more thoughts as I prepare for the Mastermind Group. It’s so simple, and yet even my 82 year old father and 77 year old step-,mom have huge problems with application. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the whole country would read this book this week! LOL


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  1. […] Communicate.  Listen intently with soft ears so that you might hear more than just the words. Let others know they are important to you and you will always find time to appreciate what it is they have to say. On the other side of the coin, be impeccable with your words. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Share your vision, your values, and your principles often.  Always tell the Truth as you know it. Inspire others with your commitment to the Truth. (Read The Four Agreements.) […]

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