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Marketing 101 – Growing Pains

April 30, 2012 by  
Filed under Marketing 101, Personal Growth

I received the following inspirational piece in my e-mail today.  It definitely created a spark in my brain as I continue to experience constriction in my business, and expansion in my personal life since my sweet spouse retired.  I find that I can clearly speak now about what it is that I do, and why I do it.  Cheryl Hansen, Referral Institute, has helped immensely in creating this clarity.  Thanks, Cheryl!

I help professional women (and the men they work with) create and respond to change with intention and a sense of adventure.

This short piece comes from the Daily Om  (you can sign up to receive their daily e-mails at )

Growing Pains
Difficult Times

We can also benefit from times of constriction and difficulty to help us grow and learn.

It can be very challenging to maintain a positive attitude and a measure of faith when you are in the midst of difficult times. This is partly because we tend to think that if the universe loves us we will experience that love in the form of positive circumstances. However, we are like children, and the universe is our wise mother who knows what our souls need to thrive better than we do. Just as a young child does not benefit from getting everything she wants, we also benefit from times of constriction and difficulty to help us grow and learn. If we keep this in mind, and continue to trust that we are loved even when things are hard, it helps us bear the difficult time with grace.

This period of time in history is full of difficulty for a lot of human beings, and you may feel less alone knowing you are not being singled out. There are extreme energy changes pulsing through the universe at every level and, of course, we are all part of the growing process and the growing pains. It helps if we remember that life is one phase after another and that this difficult time will inevitably give way to something new and different. When we feel overwhelmed we can comfort ourselves with the wise saying: This too shall pass.

At the same time, if you truly feel that nothing is going right for you, it’s never a bad idea to examine your life and see if there are some changes you can make to alleviate some of the difficulty. Gently and compassionately exploring the areas giving you the most trouble may reveal things you are holding onto and need to release: unprocessed emotions, unresolved transitions, or negative ways of looking at yourself or reality. As you take responsibility for the things you can change, you can more easily surrender to the things you can’t, remembering all the while that this phase will, without doubt, give way to another


I have been spending the last several months looking at my business, and reflecting upon why I do what I do.  I have been concerned that I am attracting clients who find it difficult to stay with coaching because it becomes “too hard” or “too time-consuming” or they much prefer to retain the crown of “victim”.

What I have discovered is that I have a love/hate relationship with change.  When big changes happened in the past, I have reacted much the same as most other people – I didn’t like it. Once I got past the initial reaction, however, I discovered that I love change.  I can jump into the deep end and emerge from the water laughing with joy.  I am willing to learn what it will take to complete the transformation, and do the work to get me there. Over time, my reaction times have gotten shorter, and I am more easily able to slip into the water and swim calmly with a smile on my face. I enjoy the adventure. I recognize that each phase of my life is taking me somewhere.  As I learn what I need to learn, the opportunity morphs into another so that I might continue to grow, and experience the adventure of my lifetime.

You may have also guessed that I am highly resistant to hiding behind the mask of “victim”.  I’ve watched so many people in my family play that role – never accepting that where they are in life is because of the choices they have made along the way.  And, where they may expect to go in life is dependent upon the choices they make today!  While I may not be in control of what happens to me, I am in control of how I respond to it.  And, I am responsible for the outcome of my choices – good and bad.

My goal in coaching is to help my clients do the same. Most people come to coaching because they wish to either intentionally create change or they need help in responding to it.  The work required in coaching is sometimes difficult.  And, it does take time to reach deep within to discover your own personal values, and create your vision of what you would like the outcome of your change experience to be. Having someone to help with this process is probably one of the best things I have done for myself, and I cherish the opportunity I have been given to be here to help others.

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