Monday, October 23, 2017

Learning to Flex Your Mental Muscle

Or, Do Your Beliefs Have You? – Part 2

 

Why is it so difficult to look at our beliefs, or assumptions if you will, from a different perspective than through our normal viewing lens?  In order for us to see the truth of our beliefs, we must first separate our “reality” from “our way of shaping reality.”  It requires us to see that our perspectives may not be the same thing as reality. 

As I was doing the research on our ability to change, I ran across a new word for me (which was delightful).  The word is noumena, from Greek, which means “ the true essential nature of Being as distinguished from the illusive objects of sense. “  This, in short, is the essence of the thing itself.  Our ability to look at our perspectives, our shaped reality or experience of the thing, and see the essence of the thing itself, allows us to get closer to the truth of what is real.  It reminds me of the story of the blind men, and the elephant: 

A group of blind men who had no idea what an elephant was, touched it to learn what it was like.  Each one touched a different part, and then compared notes about what they each felt.  They learned that they didn’t agree at all on what this thing, this elephant, was.  The blind man who felt the leg thought the elephant was like a pillar; the one who felt the tale likened the elephant to a snake; the third man who felt the ear was adamant the elephant was like a fan; the blind man who felt the tusk was convinced the elephant was like a solid pipe.  The truth is, the elephant is like all of those things!

Aldous Huxley, philosopher and novelist, wrote that “our experience is not what happens to us, but what we make of what happens to us.”  Most people don’t appreciate that the assumptions, or beliefs, we hold about ourselves, others and the world around us are the aggregate of all of our conclusions, experiences and explanations that we have accepted as reality.  And we started putting this all together the day we were born.  They are our lens on the world.  They are so much a part of us that we seldom question whether they are “truth”. 

When you begin to question your beliefs, and ask yourself what would happen, and how you would feel, if you were to turn your belief around, you will often find yourself feeling anxious.  You begin to predict dreadful outcomes that threaten to overwhelm you.  Even when you step back and say to yourself, “this probably wouldn’t happen”, you may find yourself acting as if it would.  Or, maybe, you continue to adamantly state “this is true.” It may be, or it may not.  Your certainty, and your actions, indicate that your beliefs have you, rather than the other way around. 

The key here is that you will never find out if you don’t take the opportunity to put it in front of yourself and begin to create a relationship with the belief.  We are talking about a relationship that encompasses the intimacy with the thought that allows you to experience a transformational paradigm shift.  Let’s play a bit, shall we?  I’m going to get you started with some sentence structures.  Fill them in, and begin to look at how you might be limiting your ability to move forward by the beliefs that you hold . . .

  • It’s hopeless ….. because …
  • I’m helpless … because …
  • It’s useless … because…
  • I can’t … because …
  • Life is hard … because…

What limiting belief or assumption would you like to work on this year?

Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.  You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook.   Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.

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