Find The Blessing
Ram Dass said “The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering”. Finding the blessing, and accepting it, often creates an opportunity for personal growth and enlightenment out of an event, problem or issue affecting us and requiring change.
I was speaking with a beautiful young man this last week who has been struggling his entire life with a degenerative eye dis-ease that has left him legally blind at the age of 27, and anticipating full blindness by the age of forty. He shared with me that he is no longer struggling with the inevitability of his blindness, and is actually embracing it. He said that his entire life to this point centered on materiality and vanity, and he has realized how his blindness will remove those barriers to his personal growth. It will no longer matter if he lives in a luxury apartment or a well-built mid-range apartment; he will not be able to tell the difference between Formica countertops or granite. He will not need to spend money on knickknacks and pictures. It will not matter if his hair is arranged “just right”; he will have more time to concentrate on how he interacts with people rather than on how he looks.
Such amazing insight into his affliction, and his willingness to embrace his loss of a vital human sense, has created peacefulness in his current existence that allows him to grow both personally and spiritually. It has removed the anger, and the struggle, that has plagued him for years. Because of that, he has the opportunity to create joy, happiness, and positive energy for all those who work with him, live with him, and briefly touch his life each day. He is now ready to explore his future – without his sight.
I posted this blog in 2008, when I was just starting my coaching business. I ran across it today, and because it still resonates with me, I thought I would share it again. The young man I am speaking of is my son, Josef. Today – over three years later – he knows he may have only about 3-5 years of sight left. The prognosis has shifted. Life is curly.
Josef lives every day fully. Since this was first published, the changes he has made in his life are huge. He has a very active social life with his partner, and he hesitates to go nowhere, riding the bus to and from appointments and shopping, or walking where he wants to go if it is close enough. I am waiting for him to explore his vocation. I know he may have difficulty where he is currently, and I also know that he will be successful in his endeavors to fill his work life with meaningful and intentional employment. These changes may seem small to you and me, but they required a major mind shift for him. His resistance is lessening, and he is actively pursuing his life.
Remember to look for the blessing in every situation; it quickly removes your resistance and suffering, allowing you to continue to participate in the joy of life!
What blessing can you celebrate today?
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.