Fear Not, Judge Not, Resist Not – Guidelines for Living, Part III
This is part three of our three part series on Guidelines for Living Life. I have received several comments and thoughts from a number of people, and I would like to thank you for sharing. Your openness has created a sense of connection, and I am grateful.
As a brief reminder, the first guideline is to Fear Not. What we learned here is that we are safe. Our spirit is always safe – it is infinite. Once we understand that, we can begin to let our fear go. The second guideline is to Judge Not. This concept is pointed toward not judging others, and of equal importance, not judging yourself. It is about following your deepest interests and desires, and finding the Divine in the process.
Part three is about resistance to what makes us uncomfortable, no matter how small.
If we have no reason to judge, and there is nothing left for us to fear, there is only one thing left. Do not resist that which makes you uncomfortable. Linda Howe, Director of the Akashic Institute, says, “When we resist and turn away from what makes us uncomfortable, we begin to build an energetic wall that keeps growing all around us until the very thing we are resisting becomes the barrier that keeps us from moving through it.”
Resistance means defiance, opposition, and rejection. If you are resisting part of who you are, you are rejecting yourself. If you are resisting someone, or what they are trying to give you, you are rejecting all or part of that person. If you don’t resist, but just let something be, it goes away. Letting go baffles people. It seems people hold on to anger, fear, violence and addiction even though they have tried with all their might to renounce them. Negative things stick to us because we are attached to the underlying energy that doesn’t want to go away. Letting go requires a process. It asks us to do the following:
- Look carefully at what is occurring when you feel your resistance. When you are angry or fearful, pay attention to what you are feeling and vocalizing. Identify the energy that is consuming you.
- See the facts of the particular situation. Detach the energy from what has occurred so you can concentrate on the specifics. This allows you to release your anger, and pay attention to what needs to be learned or dealt with in a meaningful way.
- Tell the truth about the situation, and take responsibility for your part in it. Your energy is yours, and yours alone. It doesn’t belong to anyone else, and it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong, or who is the aggressor or the victim. Your role in this situation is to let go of the energy that has stuck to you for whatever reason.
- Take action, and don’t expect anyone to do it for you. You find freedom through the use of your mind, body and soul. As much as others can be compassionate and wish us well, only you can take the action needed to embark on your own journey.
Because negative energies get stuck in us, they can cause problems physically. Many kinds of bodywork and energy therapies can be useful here. They provide a powerful antidote to inflicting pain on another by letting loose with verbal or physical abuse. Getting rid of stuck energy is a private matter that belongs to you. Don’t be afraid to explore and discover who you really are and what you are really about. It’s time to break free of your second hand life – based on what others tell you about you, the voices from your past, and what you were taught by your tribe and your culture. By letting go of these old energies and the need to conform, you manifest a new freedom for yourself.
What am I resisting within me that makes me uncomfortable?
Just for today, I will let go of my resistance and love the freedom I gain by taking action.
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.