Fear Not, Judge Not, Resist Not – Guidelines For Living Life, Part I
I’ve been spending more time on my spiritual side lately, and feeling rejuvenated because of it. Several books I’ve been reading, and classes I’ve been teaching, have been concentrating on fear, or “what’s in our worry box”, and limiting beliefs which are basic assumptions we came to early in life that get in the way of us creating change and moving forward. The basic premise is that those limiting beliefs are what lies under our “worry box” and creates commitments toward self-preservation that cause us to take actions (or not take actions) that stop us from achieving the goals we have set out for ourselves. Sounds like a Catch-22 doesn’t it. Seriously though, we can drive ourselves NUTS with this circular belief/behavior.
What I’m discovering at a deeper level is that given the same situation and the same goal, people react differently. The actions they take are determined by what they believe about themselves and their world. This is uniquely theirs, and creates their own unique fears, judgments and resistance to what is.
Living by these three guidelines is a tall order. In order to do that, we must understand them, and consciously make an effort to get to the bottom of them so that we can test the limiting beliefs we hold to get to the truth. Dr. Maria Nemeth, author of Mastering Life’s Energies, asks us to “Look, See, Tell the Truth, and Take Action”. Wise words as we move in the direction of understanding. Today is the first of a three part series in understanding these three basic guidelines and how we might move closer to understanding our spiritual path.
Our world is full of yin/yang relationships, creating a paradoxical environment for us to live in. One that captures us daily is the spiritual-materialistic dichotomy. It seems we are being asked to choose one over the other. Others that drive our fears are smart/stupid, beautiful/ugly, thin/fat, successful/loser, rich/poor – and so on. We make choices based on what we believe about ourselves and the world around us, bringing those beliefs into the material world, rather than looking at life from the truth of who we are. Deepak Chopra, in “Why Is God Laughing”, says that there is a Golden Rule that applies to this: What is true in the material world is false in God’s world, and vice versa. Our material world today is full of crisis and suffering; our country’s budget is seriously out of balance, the country of Japan is suffering in ways too horrific to absorb, and Ghadafi is slaughtering people because they no longer support him. Of course, the sanest way to approach life then, is to worry, and to react defensively, and be full of anxiety. Fear can be totally convincing, but rarely tells the truth. Looking at life through the lens of materialism gives us the least accurate view of the world because we then see awareness as an unintentional by-product of the workings of our brain, and mindfulness as a myth.
To live from a materialistic point of view denies everything that makes life worth living: hope, courage, beauty, truth, art, love, gratitude, joy, community, inner growth and higher consciousness.
All of these qualities depend upon perception and insight. There is no proof that love is the highest power, or that truth can release you from fear. You, and you alone, come into this awareness through your willingness to be introspective, and by developing your own inner awareness. Most of us have a wide range of experiences in the material world, but very little personal knowledge of the Universal Source. To comprehend our own spiritual path is no easy task. In doing so, we see that there is a part of us that is indestructible, that nothing can obliterate and that lives on forever. The essence of who we are is indisputable and absolute. Nothing can separate us from the essential Divinity within each one of us. As you come to know this, fear begins to fall away because there is nothing left to fear, you are safe. Now, you may begin to experience life as being full of joy and hope. When you laugh out loud or smile for no particular reason – or even because something strikes a chord in your heart – you are experiencing eternal reality, beyond the illusion of our every-day world.
How do you reach this awareness, this knowledge that you are safe? Test the fear – check to see if it is true. Start small, and slowly increase the stakes. Take the risk and lose the fear of failure, a little bit at a time. And, if you do fail – find the lesson in it and test it again. Don’t give up.
What is it that I fear, and how might I identify the underlying cause so I might test the truth of it?
Just for today, I will move in the direction of truth so that I might be free.
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.