Do Your Beliefs Have You?
I’ve heard these beliefs called Limiting Beliefs, Big Assumptions, and Untruths seen as Truth. Let’s run with this. An assumption is defined by the dictionary as “something whose truth status is uncertain; it may or may not be true.” A belief, according to the dictionary, is “a conviction, trust, or confidence that something is real or true.”
Our beliefs are often assumptions we have made about the world, those around us, and even ourselves. They may or may not be a reflection of reality. They are often based upon one or more experiences we have had that made such an impression on us that the experience became our reality, or “the truth”. They have us.
As I work with my clients, I find them to be brave individuals, dealing with their world as effectively as they can given the beliefs they hold about their world. Even though to the people around them it appears that their behavior can be destructive not only to themselves, but to others, if we are able to discern the assumptions they believe to be true in their world, we can understand their behavior.
Most of us accept that children look at their world from a limited perspective, not having the experiences we as adults have had over the years. What would your world be like if you were to discover that you hold beliefs or worldviews that have been outgrown? Would you like some examples?
- Prior to Columbus sailing to America, the “TRUTH”, or the commonly held belief, was that the world was flat. What do you believe now?
- A placebo, or “sugar pill” is sometimes given to people who are ill to compare its effects against “real” medicine. It doesn’t do anything medicinally, but they get better anyway.
- No one believed that anyone could run a four minute mile until Roger Bannister did so in 1954. Over 18 runners have done so since then.
If we are absolutely positive that we know how the world works, we generally don’t have a tendency to look for a different reality. This is not the purview of a child’s world only. Stepping out of our perspective to view reality from another point of view may be more difficult for adults than it is for children.
Much of what passes as professional development is an effort to help us develop more skills or the ability to cope with change, stress, etc. This is done within the assumptions or perceptions of our current reality. If you really want to transformation in your life, you must step outside of your current perceptions so you might see what is underneath and shaping your perceptive reality.
Heath Harding, UNL Leadership PhD candidate, and I will be rolling out a program on March 16, 2011 to talk about change, and how you can begin to utilize the process outlined within the program to create the change you most want to see, learn to deal with the changes you are presented with on a daily basis with conscious intent, and take action in meaningful ways. This process is designed to help you understand why significant “change is hard”, and to help you move beyond it by transforming your relationship to change.
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Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.