Coaching With EFT
When using EFT as a coaching tool, the primary focus is on the client’s stated coaching goals. The client wants to achieve one or more goals, such as making a big life change, completing a project or increasing their level of fulfillment. This primary focus makes EFT just one of many tools and techniques within the coach’s toolbox, along with visualizations, life purpose exercises, balance wheels and so forth. In a coaching context, the coach decides to use EFT, or some other technique, only if at that point EFT seems to be the best way to move the client towards their goal. This affects what EFT gets applied to. The client may have a significant emotional issue, but if it is not related to or getting in the way of achieving the coaching goal, then it won’t be addressed during the coaching using EFT or anything else.
The ultimate “goal” of EFT as a coaching tool is identical to the client’s overall coaching goal – with subgoals of removing whatever emotional blocks to progress may be found. Let me give you an example: Jane is struggling with life balance; a common problem of a small business owner striving to run her own business alongside managing the time requirements of raising a family of four children. This issue doesn’t stop Jane from living a happy life, but become major issues in relation to the larger life goal of running a successful business, and spending quality time with her spouse and four children. Jane’s problem in a coaching context is defined according to what emotional issues are preventing her from moving toward her goals.
Emotional state and goal achievement are tightly coupled. In the example above, using EFT to address the emotional state caused by conflicts between work and family priorities while keeping the focus firmly on goal achievement allows for a fast and safe way to bridge that gap. If the issue that comes up is sufficiently big, it is advisable to put the coaching on hold, and book specific EFT sessions to fully clear the issue before resuming coaching – or refer the client to a therapist to deal with the issue.
Coaching does not ever “fix” a coachee (because they are assumed to be creative, resourceful and whole). However, when we are successful in our coaching endeavor, it will result in client “change”. What happens in client change is a realization of the possibilities through changes in perspective and self-awareness, and an alteration of the choices that are being made. Some common changes we expect to see in a coachee’s way of being are:
- An expanded self-concept
- More awareness and honoring of personal values
- More awareness of fears and doubts, and making choices to move beyond them
- An expanded sense of what is possible
- An expanded self-belief
- Increased flexibility in action and thought
- Life becomes easier – action steps begin to flow
The “rate of change” that occurs with EFT, tends to happen at a speed appropriate to the client and their own particular requirements. There appears to be something self-regulating about how quickly or how slowly different clients release different problems and make progress toward goals. Although EFT can accelerate many processes within coaching, I don’t think its possible for a client to move faster than is helpful for her.
When utilizing EFT within the coaching setting, each application is totally customized to the coachee based on:
- The issue being worked on
- The words the client uses to describe the problem
- The client’s intensity rating at the start
- Aspects that are found along the way, suggesting new avenues of enquiry
- How the client responded to the previous application
In the end, EFT is just one more tool for a coach to use in helping a client reach their stated goals.
Georgia Feiste, President of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and leadership coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She is also a Usui Reiki Master and EFT practitioner. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. You can also find Georgia on her website, Collaborative Transitions, Twitter, LinkedIn and Facebook. Georgia may also be reached at (402) 304-1902 if you wish to schedule a 30 minute complementary consultation.