Truth-telling – A Soul Cleansing Breath
I’ve been concentrating on truth-telling over the last couple of weeks while preparing a workshop I gave last weekend. The lesson was wrapped around the concept of being a truth-teller, the cost and rewards of being a truth-teller, and the impact it has on you and those around you. It could be a heavy topic, and as always it generates a great deal of conversation when you open it up for discussion. What came up for me as I worked on the lesson, and the exercises for my clients, was the need to always tell myself the truth about any situation. I commonly say “I don’t have time to (you name it). I’m busy with taking care of my family, networking, volunteering, and my coaching business. ” Yes, all of that is true, but the real truth is that I am just not doing (you name it). If I honestly look at my day, I could have found the time, but I rapidly filled my day with nonsensical activities that were not fulfilling my values or meeting my needs.
There are a couple schools of thought about what truth is. I have taken coaching classes from Dr. Maria Nemeth who teaches that truth is the facts of what has occurred in physical reality. Thomas Leonard, on the other hand teaches that truth is sometimes deeper and more profound than the facts that have been presented as truth, and is what is so for you. This may be the difference between two philosophies – the ontological approach to coaching vs. the psychological approach to coaching. Regardless, both statements hold some merit of accuracy for me.
The discovery of truth is at times a process. It changes over time as we get more in tune with who we are, and make discoveries about our world and how it works. For me, it’s important to hold your truth lightly, and not let it become a rule that will not allow you to explore with curiosity and delight. In addition, my truth is not something to hold out for others to adhere to; they are living their own truth and are on their own path.
I’ve also discovered that there aren’t that many people interested in the truth, and it’s important to me to surround myself with those that are. When I am required to work with people who are not, I must be prepared for the consequences of being direct and I must take care when sharing my thoughts. Truth-telling must be intentional and well thought out. It requires me to be sensitive, and choose the time for truth carefully. It does no good to share truth when it will not be received because the person we are sharing with is not ready to hear it.
I think that this is one of the most important lessons we can learn, or teach, for that matter. It makes the biggest difference in our lives, and if we are lucky enough to have been given children to raise, it is one of the most valuable things we can teach them just by doing.
Still your mind, and look around you and inside you. There you will find your truth, the most important truth of all. You will not find it in a book or classroom. You will find thoughts and interpretations there which you must sift through in order to find what holds meaning for you. Believe in the truth you can perceive with your five senses – the truth of physical reality and what you feel in your heart. Once you have recognized the truth, your mind and body will rapidly adjust.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. She specializes in career and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life. Georgia is uniquely skilled in providing support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, where she blogs about business and career, and http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com, where she and many other coaches blog about mind, body, spirit and emotion. Georgia can be reached at (402) 484-8098.