Monday, April 23, 2018

Successful Women: Playing Small or Leading Change

October 5, 2010 by  
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A little over a year ago at the Peace Summit in Vancouver, the Dalai Lama said that “the world will be saved by the western woman”.   He believes that women, with their nurturing instinct, are naturally more compassionate.  The Dalai Lama said:

“Some people may call me a feminist….But we need more effort to promote basic human values — human compassion, human affection. And in that respect, females have more sensitivity for others’ pain and suffering.”

Fazle Hasan Abed (BRAC) Abed also believes that girls and women represent the greatest untapped resources of the developing world, that they are the key to solving some of its most pressing challenges, and has given $6 billion in microloans to women in Asia and Africa.

So, where are we on this journey, my friends?  There are many of us out there living day in and day out, taking care of the many responsibilities that fall to us, playing the many roles that we have taken on.  We are, or have been, successful in our lives, and many of us are looking for more.  We are hungry to make a difference in the world.  We want to find our voice and be heard.  We want to do what we love, and make things better in this time of change we are living in.  What is holding us back from doing just that?

I asked myself that question, and have been meditating on the answer for the last week or so.  For me, it is in overcoming my belief that I am invisible – that what I say doesn’t matter.  This is the basic assumption I have lived with for most of my life, and have struggled with off and on throughout my career.  Now as a coach, my struggle is in knowing that people are reading my newsletters, my tweets, my Facebook updates, my blogs, and what I post on LinkedIn.  I don’t know if that is making a difference to people in any way, shape or form.  I am fearful that I am not relevant, that I may be working on things that don’t really matter.  I fear that I am not good enough, smart enough; that I’m not creative enough.  I fear that I am invisible.  And living in that fear leads to my playing small.

This blog is not about me, it is about the thousands of women who are just like me.  It is about women who have been, or are, successful. Women who instinctually know they can no longer play small.  Women who know they must live large in order to make a difference.  We have a role to play in the transformation taking place throughout our world.  We are becoming more sensitive to that inner voice urging us to recognize our own personal power and stop giving it away. 

It’s time for us to pack up our fears and take back our power.  It is time for us to bring compassion and human affection back in to every aspect of our environment – it is time for us to step up to the plate and lead change with integrity, by leading with our values and conscious intention.  It is time to lose our invisibility, and recognize that when we do what we love, it is impossible to be invisible. 

I am passionate about having us all recognize that we are leaders.  We have been given talents, strengths and gifts to bring into this world that give us the opportunity to lead in whatever capacity we can.  We are connected one to another.  And through those connections, we are part of something bigger, something wonderful where we have a leadership role to play.  Ask yourself – how can I lead change?  And go do it. 

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    You can also find her on her websites  and  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute coaching consultation via Automated Appointment.

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6 Responses to “Successful Women: Playing Small or Leading Change”
  1. Hi Georgia,

    I feel your passion. We are so fortunate we live in these exciting times, when we can actively demonstrate our will”to pack up our fears and take back our power.”

    We are finding and exercising our power within the masculine paradigm and learning how to co-exist and flourish within that. We are collectively evolving our consciousness and bringing new ways of relating and creating together into being.

    Wishing you and me and all other sisters continued flourishing in our significant work.

    Wishing you and me and all other sisters well in our important work.


    • Georgia says:

      Thank you for your kind remarks, Robyn. We are fortunate, aren’t we? I think it is becoming critical for us, as women, to step up and help make the changes we need to move this country – this world – forward. It has become much too violent, and there is little compassion here for anyone. Keep doing what you are doing to stretch and spread your wings! Warmly, Georgia

  2. Mary Kaye says:

    Beautiful post Georgia. I am continually reassuring my coaching clients that they are not invisible, but it is their a day-to-day conversations with themselves that help them to believe that. Confidence can so easily be shattered. Take a successful woman out of the paid workforce and into motherhood and her confidence in her professional abilities instantly plummets. Building back that confidence takes so much effort, but it is indeed worth it! I wrote an entertaining blog post about confidence

    • Georgia says:

      Absolutely, Mary Kaye! And not only at the younger ages, moving into motherhood, but also as we move into our fifties and sixties and move out of the workforce through choice or being released back into the industry through lay-offs or otherwise. It becomes a time of transition where we are sometimes unable to determine where to place our foot on solid ground, and all of our fears come rolling back. Thanks for commenting!

  3. Diane says:

    Another great post Georgia. “It’s time for us to pack up our fears and take back our power.” That’s the best!


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