Create Better Relationships by Honoring Your Humanity
Over the last few days, I have received several messages about recognizing and establishing the roles in which we play. Because we so often live outside of the present moment, and are firmly grounded in what we perceive to be the realities of this world, we often walk into situations with a preconceived idea of what our role should be at any given moment. In doing so, we either place ourselves or someone else on a pedestal as a “god”.
As I reflect on this message, it occurs to me that everyone in the equation will be disappointed with whatever occurs within the situation when we do that. Alan Cohen says “Idols always fall on those who worship them.” The thoughts we experience when that takes place are defeating and, if we dwell on them, can have a devastating effect. Not only do we take affront or experience pain over whatever might have occurred, we often are thinking “they should have been better than that” or “I know better, and should not be so severely affected by what has happened”.
For example, when we walk into a situation thinking what we have to offer is more valuable than what the other person has to offer, we will be given the opportunity to learn we are not the ‘god’ we thought we were. Or, when we react badly to an opportunity presented on our life journey, and we are consumed with guilt over our inability to get past the emotional pain, we come face to face with our humanity. Conversely, when we have held someone in extremely high esteem, and we discover they have done or said something that does not fit the image we hold of them, they often come tumbling down off the pedestal on which we have placed them. And, we are devastated and judgmental at the same time.
When we are honoring ourselves, as well as others, we understand that the roles we take on or give are meaningless in the grand scheme of things. They are not good or bad. This understanding gives great peace, and allows us to feel compassion and love not only for ourselves, but for others as well.
Accepting and recognizing the divinity in each of us is not quite enough, from my perspective. Keeping in mind, and appreciating, that we are all human must stand side by side with seeing the divinity within. This enables us to see the possibilities and the wonder of each person we meet, and in ourselves. At the same time, it helps us stay away from judgment, helping us discern the truth of the situation by shining a light on ourselves and the role we are playing.
My reflections end in this way: Don’t judge; be willing to be the light. Honor your humanity, and that of those around you, thereby operating from a place of being equals. Create your peace through love, compassion and forgiveness.
Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, located in Lincoln, NE, is a life transition coach, writer, and workshop facilitator. Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life. She provides support and encouragement as her clients set intentional goals to attain their desires, holding open the space they need to stretch and grow. Georgia’s specialties include career transitions, including career shifting, career growth, and entrepreneurship, and transitioning into retirement. Her website is http://www.collaborativetransitions.com, and she can be reached at (402) 484-8098.