Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Boring or Freak?

September 16, 2010 by  
Filed under Leadership

This morning I was at my BNI (Business Networking International) meeting and was somewhat taken aback by one of the 60 second referral presentations.   In that presentation, the young man slipped (Freudian or not),  and stated that people who are environmentally conscious are “freaks”.  I know he didn’t mean to say that – but the reaction of the group was one of laughter and some agreement.  This got me thinking, which can be dangerous on a Thursday morning with about 4 hours of sleep.

How do we go about affecting conscious, intentional and positive change if we aren’t willing to be seen by some as a “freak”?  People come to me for coaching to find out “why am I here?” or “I know I need to do something different, but I don’t know what it is?” or “I’m frustrated because my team just can’t seem to get committed to the job” or “I’m heading into retirement, but I’m terrified that I won’t have anything to do and I’ll be bored.”   What comes within all of these coaching encounters is the need to discover what they CARE about, not necessarily what they believe!  Beliefs often don’t serve us well, and need to be examined for what they are.  It isn’t until we care about something that we begin to set goals and take action. 

I believe we are beginning to see stirrings within our society pointing toward a movement from a cynical sense of sluggish, jaded condescension to a society wanting to make a significant difference in their lives and the lives of others.  We see people who are passionately involved in initiating change in areas that are important to the survival of humanity.  Unfortunately there are many within the general population who consider these people to be “freaks”.  It seems that most movements that initiate the greatest change in our culture are started by people who are willing to go against the status quo.  People who are willing to go “outside the box” and take the risk of being different.    

Matthew Fox wrote that “our society is bored with everything.  Even though we are a species made for cosmology, our culture has rendered us passive couch potatoes and shopping and entertainment addicts… We have been cut off from the greatness of the universe, and consequently we are bored, boring and violent.”

I’m ready as a coach to go to work.  Are you?

Where in your life are you ready to up your game?

Are you willing to learn what you REALLY care about – and take the risk of being different?

Georgia Feiste, owner of Collaborative Transitions Coaching, Inc., located in Lincoln, NE, is a personal growth and transitions coach, writer, and workshop facilitator.  She is also a Usui Reiki Master.  Georgia specializes in career, business and personal life transitions for people seeking change in their life.  Her passion is success grounded in purpose and passion, standards of integrity and priorities in life.    You can also find her on websites  http://www.rainbowbridgecoach.com , and http://www.georgiafeiste.com.  Georgia can be reached at (402) 304-1902 or you can schedule a 30 minute consultation via Automated Appointment.

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3 Responses to “Boring or Freak?”
  1. This was an interesting post as far as it went, but your conclusion wasn’t clear to me at first reading. As a writer, I think I would have understood better what you were asking of me if you had moved Fox’s quote to the 3rd paragraph and asked your questions at the end before telling me you were ready to go to work as a coach in helping me to find the answers to those questions.

    That said, I don’t believe people focused on their goals of affecting change spend much time thinking about how others perceive their actions, since none of us can control how others see us. Further, I don’t think change agents take “the risk of being different.” They probably already perceive themselves as different and just do their best to ignore it.f

    It seems to me that what you’re really talking about is helping others think through their emotions to discover the core areas they care most about and to help them find ways to set and achieve goals in those areas to effect positive change in their worlds. Although we may not all agree on what “positive change” would be, any work in moving towards clarity and taking action is definitely positive change for the individual.

  2. Georgia says:

    Robyn – Thank you so much for your comments, particularly on structure of the blog. I appreciate all thoughts about how to make my writing better – achieving clarity and focus.

    I’m also interested in what you meant by “I don’t think change agents take “the risk of being different.” They probably already perceive themselves as different and just do their best to ignore it.”

    Are they ignoring the fact that they are different or that there is risk in being different? For me there are two different topics here – they often are different in that they have a deep passion for their life “work”; change agents recognize that and it is what motivates them. As for taking on the risk of being different – I believe they are foolish if they don’t understand the obstacles and the risks and have at least formulated ideas for how to work through them for the betterment of all.

    As a coach, you are absolutely right about what I do, which you touched on in the last part of your comment.

    And, finally, thank for pointing out your perception that I was using this post as a marketing tool. I was not consciously doing that, but it’s apparent now that you point it out that it must have been unconscious on my part, because I can see it clearly now.

    So, let me be conscious about it. Yes, my passion is helping others find what they really CARE about,and helping them work from the strengths, talents and gifts within that passion so that they can make the difference only they can make in this world.

    Thanks again! I value your insights!



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