Top 3 Things Empty Nesters Can Do to Re-Connect at the Sub-Atomic Level
Empty Nesters are defined as couples who have raised their kids to adulthood and no longer have them living with them. As parents, your roles over the past two decades have been focused on your children and their lives. They have been the number 1 priority when it comes to financial decisions, weekend activities and even where you live based on school system ratings.
Now that they have “left the nest”, you two need to refocus your energies on your needs and the needs of your spouse. So much of your time and energy has been devoted to getting the kids prepared for their own lives that you have put yours on old.
The adjustment period after you get your home back can take several months. Having the entire house clean and quiet is big change from when your children were home. Now there is just the two of you which can be a tough transition for both of you.
Here are 3 things you can do to re-connect:
1. Rekindle the love affair with each other. After 20 years of marriage, most of you know each other’s secrets, or do you? Most likely, you do know your spouse very well, but they do not tell you everything that is going on in their lives. Begin “dating” again and commit to telling each other something your spouse does not know about you.
2. Build an exercise room together. Converting an old bedroom or basement to something you both can share is a great way to re-establish a connection. Most likely, you both have your own space that you go to relax, but defining a space where you both can workout together and enjoy each other’s company is a nice way to get back to basics. Physical activity can assist in helping an individual feel better about themselves, and doing workouts together can be even more enjoyable for both of you.
3. Share in a charitable act. Knowing that both of you have raised your family and have nurtured your kids to adulthood is a very satisfying experience. Extending that idea to help others is a great way to continue your relationship as you help others in need.
In summary, your relationship with your husband or wife is special and should continue to enrich your lives. However, your focus and attention on each other can be a difficult transition from parenthood. If all you talk about is the kids, even after they have started their own lives, you need to re-establish a sub-atomic relationship and get back the newness of each other.
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